When I started my freelance business, I had one goal: To create a career I didn’t need a weekend away from.
It was a goal made with the best of intentions. I was so tired of living for the weekend, of counting down the hours until I could walk out of the office. “Find a job you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life,” the old adage goes. I was determined to make it happen.
And it worked-at first. The goal of “creating a career I didn’t need a weekend away from” gave me the motivation to build a client base. I started imagining the kind of business it could grow into, and the life I would lead once I had reached a certain level of success.
But you know how this story goes, right?
Eventually, I got so caught up in my goals that my job became my life.
From the outside, I wasn’t a workaholic
I kept regular business hours. I didn’t actually work weekends. I protected my time.
But when I wasn’t working, I was thinking about work. And when I wasn’t thinking about it, I was thinking that I should probably be thinking about it.
Who has time to meet up with friends when there’s a new offering to dream up?
Why plan a date night when we enjoy sitting at home plenty well enough-and I can journal about my goals after dinner?
It’s embarrassing to admit how long this went on. Because it continued for years. I was so focused on my big, beautiful dreams that I didn’t notice when my real life become a small, confined version of what it used to be.
Here’s the lesson I’m finally learning:
Your future life looks a lot like your present one
The habits and behaviors you set now stay with you, for good or bad.
Do you dream of a life where you can break out the watercolors every day? If you don’t find time for them now, you won’t prioritize them later. Carve out space to pull out the paints, even if it’s just a few times a month.
Dream of a life that allows you to travel all the time? Don’t let that dream live in some undetermined future-start saving for your next trip…